It's got quite a bit of info on it so I'm not going to sit here and rant but the website for my ebook is http://www.thedreamway.net/ . You can also sign up for the e-mail list here on the right. The free content includes the two Under 21 Lifestyle conferences as well as a few other goodies.
Also today I decided to release a free chapter. I could have been gay about it and released the introduction or something else that's not that useful (I see a lot in other releases), but I decided the best course of action for you guys and myself would be to release some MEAT.
Yeah some raw value. Something you can go out TONIGHT and incorporate into your game. It's not the final final version but does have most of what will be in there. It's a section from Book III: How to actually get a woman home.
It's called Mini Venue Changing. Some of you guys may have heard me use this in previous journal postings back when I was in the early learning stages. As of today, this is a huge part of my game.
And the best part? It's COOL. It's NOT weird, robotic, or pooahtron for short ;). If you go out for the next few nights and really learn this concept, you're sets will go further, confidence will soar, and your game will get noticably TIGHTER.
No joke.
Here it is (blogger fucked it up with an ugly stick pretty nicely so expect something far better looking when you buy the book)
Mini Venue Changing
There will only be a few times in your life (if ever) you will bring a girl home by talking to her in the same exact location, all night.It’s just not pro-active.
What’s astonishing to me is how so many community guys know that “being with her in more than one location amplifies her comfort with you significantly” but SO few do it. Too often do I see local guys open a set and try to game the girl/s in the same EXACT location till they get blown out. It’s almost like an invitation…
“hey I’m going to stand here in an awkward spot while you’re comfortable and ramble off pickup lines off the internet while touching you in random intervals, feel free to blow me out whenever you like”
Understand you must lead, both emotionally and logistically (this would be micro in this case). Another thing critically important to understand, it’s socially NORMAL to move around (read as being comfortable in your own skin) with people you just met.
***Going to sit down because
- Your feet hurt
- It’s too loud in X spot
- You hate standing
***Going to dance because
- You have ADD ;)
- You’re getting bored
- Feel like busting out a seizure ;)
- Your curious to see if she’s as good of a dancer on the dancer floor as she was standing by the bar alone (I find this one particularly funny)
***Going to get a drink (of water of course =D)because
- you’re thirsty/she looks thirsty
- you both just got done dancing and this is what normal people do
*** Going outside because it’s
- cramped/crowded
- smoky inside
- hot/cold inside
- to loud everywhere
***Going to find your/her friends
- Girls sometimes suggest this (often times for peer approval so put your happy face on)
- Finding your friends can also be CRUCIAL for macro logistical purposes
And the list goes on, and on, and on… be creative. Any time you two can go do something together, it's a mini venue change.
Notice the excuses included with each move? These are important, very important. Do you always have to have an excuse? No. Sometimes you can just say “hey, lets go get a drink”.
It’s not rocket science.
Understand that the little excuses you give are social excuses, not excuses for your desires as a man. They make her life easier by putting less responsibility for the action on her, and the make your life easier as well (especially if her friends are within ear shot).
Also keep in mind what each move will do.
- Building massive comfort and distorting her internal clock, check one.
- Making the night an adventure and more fun for everyone involved, check two.
But beyond that use your head. Escalate. If you go dance with her for 10 minutes her buying temperature will be escalated naturallyIf you move outside you are that much closer to your vehicle and final destination
~Note: if possible at any time, and especially later or closer to the actual pull, always be moving towards where you want to go (usually outside towards transportation). That’s the point of escalating in this manner.
On the flipside, if you say “hey let’s go dance” 25 seconds after meeting the girl/s, they might not yet be comfortable doing that, you might not have the conviction and authenticity behind the move, they might have a boy friend nearby, they are annoyed as you’re the 8th guy that night to try to get them to dance before chatting them up, they are in a pissy mood because a friend just blew chunks, etc…
Use common sense and your own instincts (built by night after night out socially experimenting and living life to the fullest).
As for how many of these “mini venue changes” to do, it depends on external variables such as the environment or ratio of guys to girls in your groups, and your own internal calibration.
The more the merrier however, so don’t be shy, take her all over the club, get closer to your vehicle/ride, and pull. That said don’t get caught up and count “oh man that’s only 3, guess I gotta do 3 more before shell fuck me…” (unless this is one of the first nights out trying this and you’re in the early learning stages).
These are guidelines, not dogmatic rules.
I’ve laid women with less than 5 mini venue changes, and as many as…well you lose count after about a dozen.
Another thing to keep in mind at louder venues like college bars/clubs is the flow of the venue. Most of these types of venues are fairly chaotic and well…NUTS. Go with the flow. Don’t fight it.
If the dance floor is stupidly packed maybe a bounce outside to sit down and hang out in a quieter part of the venue is a better option.
Once again, common sense, not rocket science.
And finally, it’s almost always easier to move a set when buying temperature is high (basically the more excited girls are the more willing they are to go with whatever you suggest). So if they are hesitant to say…go sit down with you, hang around for a bit, get them laughing and then suggest it again. Simple yet effective.
And now on to Seeding the Bounce...
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End free chapter.
So hopefully you guys can head out TONIGHT and put that to use. Hell I would have traded my left nut for someone to explain this to me a year ago, and you guys get it for free!
There's more where that came from to guys so sign up on the top right of my blog or when you visit http://www.thedreamway.net/ and expect some more free value in the near future.
For now, im out!
-Dream
ps- I'm doing sime traveling around Florida and the Carribean (spelling?) for over a week and hence won't have internet access. I might have a surprise post uploaded in the meantime though...;)
pps- Mayhem and Niltak have stepped up to moderate and keep the forum running smoothly. Any problems please contact Mayhem first.
ppps- big shout out to Mayhem and Nilatak for doing this, thanks guys!
